“There’s a word for ‘people who are in there heads too much’: thinkers.” ~ Mahatma GandhiSharing quiet time might just be the best gift we can give. The holidays can be a whirlwind of visiting relatives and catching up with loved ones, the days filled with chatter and carols. Sometimes the best way we can make sure we’re present for all the festivities is by taking time out to replenish our souls. It’s easy to feel selfish for turning inward during the holidays, but going for a run, paddle, or ski might just be the best way to sift through our thoughts and digest family drama.This year, I’m giving the gift of quiet. I’m trying to take note of the people on my list who need a break and carving it out for them, whether it means offering to watch their kids for a few hours or helping out with chores. There’s no better way than a long run to, as T.S. Elliot put it, “prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet.” If we’re all honest, there’s that one relative that strains our smile. Dealing with family tension can bring out the Grinch in all of us. The opportunity to turn inward gives us a reprieve from the expectations of the season.When the pace feels too hectic, turn it down a notch. Give yourself permission to amble, stroll, and linger. If your work-out plans involve meeting up with others, don’t worry about filling every silence with chatter. The pressure to start talking with the first stride, have your running partner laughing by the first mile, and ensuring by the time you finish that your friend is wondering where the time went isn’t necessary.Sometimes the best gift we can give is quiet when we are spending time with our loved ones during the holidays. Running side-by-side in silence can be the best of both worlds – having the companionship of friends sharing the experience with you, but free to be alone with your thoughts. Taking a break from talking offers the gift of listening to the sound of silence, which turns out not to be so quiet after all. Quiet is a catalyst and solitude is responsible for innovations from Van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of personal computers. We live in a society that admires the outgoing and encourages the gregarious, but there’s another way, the way of the quiet, the cerebral, the unassuming.This season, listen more than you talk. Better yet, give the gift of silence.
We’ve all heard the remark, “You are your own worst critic.” It’s often directed at nitpickers and perfectionists. But if you’re striving for success, being self-critical can be a good thing, so says a major headhunter.Krisi Rossi O’Donnell, chief recruiting officer at Chicago-based recruiting firm LaSalle Network, says being self-critical can actually help someone achieve their goals. Inc.com contributor Mindy Zetlin draws on O’Donnell’s observations in a recent post:– You’re always getting better. You’re not happy with your current situation or yourself, so you are continually working on ways to improve.– You listen to others. Because you always want to improve, O’Donnell explains, you constantly seek feedback and hear other people’s suggestions.– You’re self-aware. You know what areas of your life need improvement.– Your ego never runs away with you. Always “questioning your processes keeps you from developing an ego,” O’Donnell says.Zetlin summarizes a few more of O’Donnell’s points here, and she pulled out one example that I particularly liked. continue reading » 39SHARESShareShareSharePrintMailGooglePinterestDiggRedditStumbleuponDeliciousBufferTumblr
Donegal death notices for today, Saturday, September 2. Sean O’MAHONYThe death has occurred of Sean O’Mahony, Carrowhugh, Greencastle, Co. Donegal and formerly of Clontarf, Dublin, 1st September 2017, passed away peacefully at home in Donegal. Beloved husband to Brigid (Girlie), father of Feargal, Ronan and Grainne. Grandfather to his beloved grandchildren, Aoife, Meadbh, Ciara, Cormac, Tadgh and Aoibhin. Sadly missed by his son-in-law Brian and daughter-in-law Deirdre and his brother Peadar. Reposing at his late residence, Carrowhigh, Greencastle on Saturday 12.00 noon – 9.00pm. Funeral Mass on Sunday 3rd September at 12 noon in St. Mary’s Church, Ballybrack, Greencastle, followed by burial in the adjoining cemetery. Family flowers only please. Donations in lieu to the Foyle Hospice, Culmore Road, Derry, Northern Ireland. Robert (Bobby) ELLIOTTThe death has occurred, at Letterkenny University Hospital, of Robert (Bobby) Elliott, 10 Ard Colmcille, Letterkenny, deeply regretted by his loving wife Mary (Moisin) née Laughlin, devoted father of Tina Quinn (Raphoe), Carmel Bonner (Convoy), Carol Elliott (Slieve Sneacht, Letterkenny), April Moore (Convoy), Sharon Maloney (The Grange, Letterkenny) and John (Letterkenny), sadly missed by his brothers, sisters, in-laws, grandchildren, relatives, neighbours and friends.Bobby’s remains will repose at his home from 8pm Friday 1st September. Funeral from there on Sunday, 3rd September, going to St Eunan’s Cathedral, Letterkenny, for 12 noon Mass with burial afterwards in Conwal Cemetery. Family flowers only please, donations in lieu, if desired, to St. Eunan’s Nursing Home Residents Comfort Fund, c/o Paschal Blake Funeral Director, Stoney Arch, New Line Road, Letterkenny. Family time from 11pm to 11am and on the morning of the funeral. Patrick (Pat) MARLEYThe death has occurred of Patrick Marley, Long Brae, Castlefin and formerly Trusk, Ballybofey. Beloved husband of the late Bridget and much loved father of Anne, Jim, Catherine, Claire, Mary, Shane, Patrick, Stephenie, Michelle, Leo and Lisa. Devoted brother of Seamus, Sean, Anne and Liam. Sadly missed by his sons, daughters, brothers, sister, grandchildren, extended family and friends.Remains reposing at the home of his brother Seamus Marley, 95 Blue Cedars, Ballybofey, from 5 pm until rosary at 10 pm on Saturday, Sept 2nd, and on Sunday, Sept 3rd, from 11 am until rosary at 10 pm. Funeral leaving from there on Monday, Sept 4th, at 10.30 am for Requiem Mass at 11 am in St. Mary’s Church, Sessiaghoneill. Interment afterwards in the adjoining churchyard. Donations in lieu of flowers, if so desired, please, to the Good & New Cancer Bus, care of any family member. Family time on the morning of the funeral.Donegal Death Notices – Rest in Peace was last modified: September 2nd, 2017 by Staff WriterShare this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Telegram (Opens in new window)Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)Click to share on Skype (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window) Tags:obituaries